Healthy sexual relationships can support your well-being when they include care and thoughtfulness. Since most adults have sex at some point in their lives, we can all benefit from information for how to stay informed, safe, and confident in our choices.
Think about What You Want
Only you can decide when you’re ready for sex. Take time to check in with yourself about your motivations, feelings, and boundaries. Are you comfortable with the potential risks or consequences? Are you clear about what you hope to gain from the experience? Remember, intimacy and learning about your sexuality is a lifelong process, and your needs may change. Trust yourself, and honor what feels right for you.
Communicate Clearly
Great communication makes for healthier and more satisfying experiences. Ask your partner what they enjoy, and share what feels good—or what doesn’t—for you. It might feel awkward at first, but talking about sex can deepen trust and even be part of the fun. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues to ensure both of you feel safe, respected, and understood.
Get Clear and Enthusiastic Consent
Consent means everyone agrees to what’s happening – and it should be clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing. Discuss boundaries and preferences ahead of time, when things are relaxed and comfortable. Be honest and open about anything your partner should know – your STI status, preferred method of protection, and any other factors that affect your and their choices. This helps ensure that everyone knows what they are saying “yes” to and helps build trust and safety.
Use Protection Consistently
Using a condom, dental dam, or other barrier can help prevent sexually transmitted infections. You can get these free at Campus Health, Student Stores Pharmacy, Student Wellness, or the Carolina Union. Consider how to prevent pregnancy if that might impact you or your partner. Condoms are effective methods of contraception when used correctly and consistently, and Campus Health offers prescription birth control.
Get Regular STI Testing
Many STIs don’t show symptoms but can still affect your health. Get tested at least once a year, or more regularly if you have new or multiple partners. Campus Health offers convenient STI testing right on campus. By prioritizing your sexual health, you can enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of intimacy while reducing risks.