Concern about Yourself
It’s a sign
of health and maturity to acknowledge personal distress and vulnerable feelings
and to reach out for help. One of the surest ways to aggravate any
problem or concern is to become isolated with it and buy into shame and self
blame for feeling distressed. Be aware of the sources of stress in your
life and how you are reacting to them. Sometimes just noticing and
acknowledging how you feel and being kind to yourself about it can be a good
start in being able to feel better.
Perhaps there has been some disappointment or loss
in a relationship. Maybe you are feeling the pressure of making good
grades. You may notice that you have been feeling excessively sad,
worried, irritable, withdrawn, or just “not yourself”. Or perhaps you are
concerned about a pattern of unhealthy behaviors (e.g., drug or alcohol abuse,
eating disorder, self-injury) or you have stopped going to class and are
sleeping much of the day.
Any problem that is causing concern is an
appropriate reason to talk to someone about it.
Who can I call or speak to?
in your family
residence hall advisor
professor or instructor you respect and trust
spiritual counselor or minister or rabbi
and Psychological Services
Know Who To Call
If this is an emergency
CAPS at 919-966-3658 and speak with the Urgent Consultation Team. After 5pm
and on weekends call 919-966-2281
- Call 911,
Campus police (962-8100)
directly to the emergency room
Levels of Concern – What should I keep in mind?
If you’re feeling down, upset, overwhelmed, lonely, anxious, or isolated…but haven’t entertained thoughts about not living.
you are not alone
do care and can help
careful not to isolate yourself or maintain unhealthy habits to cope
out to others for support and help in problem solving
- It’s a
sign of maturity and strength to acknowledge distress and vulnerable feelings
If you’ve had thoughts about not living…but wouldn’t want to harm yourself.
that just having such thoughts does not mean you are crazy or are the only
person to ever think this way
that people can have such thoughts from time to time without ever wanting to
act on them.
that such thoughts are a real distress signal indicating
- You are
feeling overwhelmed or helpless in some way and that
- It is
important you talk to a trusted person for support and help resolving how you
If you have thought seriously about ending your life… or worry that you might harm yourself.
very important that you talk with some trusted person about these thoughts and
feelings as soon as possible.
that someone does or will care and that
life is worth living
that the helplessness or crisis you feel is temporary, and that
unbearable emotional pain can be survived.
CAPS (919-966-3658) and ask to be seen as soon as possible.
that help is available now, 24/7 – don’t put off seeking help
If you have recently started to harm yourself or attempted to end your life.
keep this a secret. Tell someone you trust and/or a CAPS counselor.
that others care and want to help.
isolate yourself or fall back on unhealthy habits to cope.
to a continuing plan to provide you support and help with problem solving.
CAPS (966-3658) and ask to be seen as soon as possible.
that help is available now, 24/7 - don't put off seeking help
How can I become more resilient in
the face of stress?
Be informed about clinical problems and what interventions help. Refer to our health topics page for information about specific issues.